You are not alone!
Ever feel like you were tossed into some random situation with no way to cope? We all have…WE ARE PARENTS!
That being said, no one warned us that they would grow into minds of their own and even worse, if you have more than one, they’re even different from each other. Learning is the name of the game in parenting. These little beings did not come with owner manuals. We don’t get cheat codes, and we don’t get paid to pass go.
We learn as we go and we will all always make mistakes. We all have the same goal though..don’t scar the kids. The main goal in parenting is to not make a childhood they need to recover from. From school to home, you have a lot on your shoulders. There is no guarantee you can protect them from everything and every aspect the world has to offer, but we just need to try our best and handle what we can.
I happen to be a firm believer that there is no such thing as too much love, as long as you have the boundaries to go along with it. Always listen to what your child has to say and always comfort them when they need it. No matter how small or insignificant it may seem to you? It could mean the world to them at that point in time. The more they can tell you at a young age? The more they are willing to share when they get older.
I swear a lot, I’ll smoke a bowl now and then after they go to bed, I lose my temper. We all do. I can’t speak for all parents, but I know that sometimes, I just want their stories to get to the end. If you have a walking, talking child, you know damn well they have issues with staying on course.
Some days after a long day at work, it’s hard to come home to excitement and someone who only wants you when all you want to do is relax. Work and home can both take a lot out of you. One of the hardest parts of being a working parent is being able to leave the other life separate. When you come home from work, you don’t want your stress to wear off on your kids. I will admit, I have had my moments of walking in the door and not wanting to deal with anything. Going from one job straight into another blows. Going into work from screaming kids, blows.
However…After dealing with so much stress, that excitement also means they know that you may not be in the best mood, you may walk in the most resting bitch face ever…but they want you anyway. Their smiles will always bring a smile to your face because the smiles on their faces are solely for you and you alone.
You are their rock. You are their safe place. No matter where you are or where you take them, you are their comfort, you are happiness and most of all, you are home.
Every time I think I want to give up on something, I know I can’t because I know who is watching me. As a parent, your kids need a strong role model to help navigate this new messed up world. I try my hardest every day to show them I can get stuff done. Don’t get me wrong, I ask my husband for a lot of help. He works nights and that means he sleeps through most of the day. He is giving up a lot to work nights. He misses things he doesn’t want to miss, but the kids know it’s because he is working his hardest to give us a great life. Every family I know has a parent or parents that miss out on things in the life of their kids. They hate it. I hate it, but the kids will understand.
My girls are five and six and understand what is going on. They have learned so much about life already it’s almost unbelievable. All kids have this uncanny ability to comprehend so much. They learn mannerisms and sarcasm, they absorb so much that we don’t even think of while it’s happening. So when my husband scared my youngest to be funny, automatically she yelled “What the fuck?” I told her what she said wrong and I also know that she knows better. It was a heat of the moment thing and I couldn’t be too upset or too harsh.
They have no idea though how much they push me to be better. I fight through every obstacle and every meltdown for them. We all do, and I know that. There are so many different parenting styles, you most likely fall into more than one category. I don’t think anyone falls into just one.
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